Lately, I have been spending a little time watching HGTV shows such as Fixer Upper and Rehab Addict. I find it inspiring to see how these experts take a mess and make it better. There is hope is seeing the possibilities of turning bleakness and disaster into actual beauty. These people show others how to have a renovating life – turning old and ugly into something new and desired.
Living with grief can certainly fill your world with gloom. Days seem dreary and nighttime threatens to suffocate with its darkness. Just as those Do-It-Yourself stars teach how to improve your home, you can be guided to see hope and potential in your now, changed life.
Turning something broken into an item with purpose is a gift. Our DIY experts certainly have the ability to do amazing things with ruined homes, torn-up yards, and seemingly hopeless real estate. Having the ability to move forward in your grief is also a gift. It takes practice and persistence to see progress in your journey. Hard work is required in order to one day find yourself on the other side of your difficult, long journey of mourning and sadness.
There is a verse in the Bible that addresses turning a life of hardship and despair into one of joy and happiness. “…provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair….” (Isaiah 61:3 NIV)
God wants to provide a way to give us a renovating life. Notice I did not write renovated life. I chose renovating because making your way through the difficulties that everyone encounters at one time or another is an ongoing process. While there is sadness in this world, we can persist to hunt for gladness. We can experience joy; trading in the sorrows and mourning that accompany death and loss.
As you work on your renovating life, realize you may need to stop and start over a few times. Perhaps what you thought would be helpful and work is not doing the job. Be willing to try another route. Pray and seek new direction. Remember that even the DIY experts mess up occasionally and are forced to tear something out and try again. A renovating life is full of possibilities. Just as the home projects cause you to marvel at the final pictures, you can also find wonderment and hope in the life that is awaiting you.
Here is to elbow grease, flexing a few muscles, and exposing your needs and desires as you work on your journey ahead.
Until next time –
Grief Letters By Karen Bransgrove, Published by WestBow Press. You can order here.
Hardcover | 6 x 9 in | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869674
Softcover | 6 x 9 in | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869667
E-Book | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869650
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