This past summer during the preteen camp I run for our children’s ministry, several people said some funny things which became quotes to remember. “Fear the bonnet,” “Who stole the milk jug?” and “I got bit by a goat and went to unicorn land” were among the best ones. As we walk through grief and loss, there are certain phrases that are brought up time and again as people quote what they think we need to hear.
“I know how you feel” and “They’re so much better off now” are among the quotes that really are not helpful to hear as you journey through sadness and heartache. Hearing them can hurt and remind you once again of your loss and the sadness that overtake you at times. Even though these statements may be true, they are hard to hear early into your journey.
However, there are some quotes that can help as you move forward and begin to heal. Reciting, memorizing, and quoting scripture can be incredibly empowering and healing. Claiming promises from God gives hope not only for you today but also for your future.
Healthy self-talk is vital for healing and forward movement in your grief journey as well. Telling yourself that you can survive the pain that aches down deep inside injects hope into each hour you face. It is these quotes that help you believe in your head that you will eventually be okay even when all your heart knows now is darkness.
Yesterday I heard someone say, “I don’t want to hear I can’t.” While she was talking to children at the time, this is a good lesson for everyone. Instead of handing your life over to defeat, quote positive things instead. Some examples of helpful quotes to tell yourself might be: “I can certainly do this.” “If he can do it, then I can do it.” “I still believe there is a purpose in my life.”
These quotes point to better things just around the corner. Do not settle for the sadness that invades your life now. Push ahead and keep looking for the good in each day. Sometimes that is hard to find and the only positive statement you come up with is, “The sun came up today” or “I didn’t fall down and skin my knee this afternoon.” Keep trying and before you know it, you will find your special quote that will stick with you and be the boost you need for your tough days.
Until then, borrow one from someone else. One of my favorite quotes from scriptures is the promise that no matter how bad things seem, nothing can defeat you when you look to God for your strength.
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38, 39 (NIV)
Until next time –
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