As Christmas approaches there is an expectation to spruce up the house for the holidays. People work hard to make their homes look festive and cheerful by hanging up stockings and putting up trees with colorful lights, ornaments and ribbons. However, living through the grief of death and loss during this season can cause decoration dilemma for some of us. Let me explain.
For the past three weeks, I have intended to decorate our home for Christmas. I even went so far as to pull out boxes in hopes of beginning the task that I used to enjoy. However, most of the items are still in the boxes and the house is barely whispering “Merry Christmas.”
I have learned to give myself permission to tackle these difficult tasks at my own pace. The world will not be knocked off its course or the sun fail to shine because all my decorations are not yet up. I trust that by the time we have friends over for Christmas dinner, things will be sufficiently placed about, beautifying my home.
Why is it so hard to unpack and get this job finished? Facing the memories from years past just seems overwhelming at times. At least that is what I experience. I am sure there are some people who look forward to placing out their holiday collections and find great joy and comfort in seeing them. I admire their abilities and hope to someday be able to do the same thing.
Until then, I will be content with doing what I can. If that means digging into a box for one or two items every few days, then that is what I will do. My decoration dilemma will not stop me from living each day to the best of my ability. I know the real reason for the Christmas season – the gift of Jesus Christ given to redeem mankind. The packaging and decorations are just fluff.
If you struggle with your own decoration dilemma, remember to keep your focus on what is truly important – family, friends and most of all, your faith.
Until next time –