You can certainly do this



While walking through grief, your emotions will freely flow and be quite unpredictable at times. One moment you are walking down the sidewalk and the next you are standing in tears. Perhaps you saw someone who looked just like your loved one. Maybe a familiar fragrance wafted through the air. A special song plays through the open window of a passing car taking you back to special memories that tug at your heartstrings and render you useless for a moment. As you try to recover, glancing over your shoulder to see if anyone is watching you fall apart, remember that you can certainly do this.

Dealing with the deep and lasting pain of grief and loss is hard. Unless it is experienced first-hand though, understanding the grief journey is difficult. Instead of living the life you had planned and dreamed of, you find yourself forging a new path, not quite sure of your destination. There is no clear map as to where to go, how to get there, and what your end goal actually is. Even with all those doubts and uncertainties cascading into your life, be encouraged and find hope. You can certainly do this.

One of my favorite lessons to teach and recite from the Bible is found in Numbers 13. It is the story of Moses sending a team to spy out the Promised Land for the Israelites. While the mission wasn’t exactly a success and doesn’t end the way you would expect, there are valuable lessons to learn. Moses sent out twelve men to sneak in and test the waters of a new country that God had promised His people. They were to check out the lay of the land. What food grew there? Who lived there? What were they like? Were the cities fortified?

When the spies returned from their mission, they brought with them evidence of the incredible crops that awaited them there. However, ten of the men were fearful, saying the people who lived there were too powerful for them to overtake. Never mind that God had promised them this land and victory over the inhabitants. They dug in their heels and refused to budge.

However, two of the spies spoke up and said let’s do this! We can win! God is on our side! There is nothing to fear! Unfortunately, because of the people’s doubts, they had to wait before experiencing victory over that land and the people there. Great blessings were missed and years of headship were ahead because of their stubbornness and fear.

The grief journey can be like the unknown territory that scared most of these spies into inaction and disobedience. It looks scary. Walking forward and moving into the unknown seems impossible and too big to handle. Be encouraged – you can certainly do this.

Though people and situations may render you unable to move forward at times, know that those are temporary bumps in the road. God promises that He has not brought you here to leave you helpless and hopeless. He wants to strengthen you, help you, and even carry you when you are unable to propel yourself forward.

Choose to let Him do this. Set your mind on the task ahead and move forward at your own pace. When you grow weary, stop and rest. When energy returns, continue on the journey. You can certainly do this. Hold tight to the promise that is given to Joshua, one of the spies who spoke up and believed the victory was theirs. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 (NIV)

Until next time –


Grief Letters is available for you to purchase. Having hope and purpose is not impossible when facing loss and pain. This devotion book is filled with lessons learned from my own journey as well as suggested activities written to help achieve forward progress through grief. Place your order today!


Grief Letters By Karen Bransgrove, Published by WestBow Press. You can order here.

Hardcover | 6 x 9 in | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869674

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