Here we are at the last day of 2014. Congratulations! You have made it through this year! One popular tradition in beginning a new year is to set resolutions by which to live. These promises to ourselves can become daunting and overwhelming at times. While our intentions are good when we set these goals, we can easily feel defeated when we fail to keep them. The last thing people in grief need to take on are feelings of inadequacy and defeat.

I want to propose an alternative to setting resolutions for this coming year. I looked up synonyms for this word and thought it would be fun and more beneficial in our grief journeys if we did the following instead.

Let us be resolved to face life one minute, one hour, and one day at a time. When we look too far ahead while facing grief, we can easily become overwhelmed and lack the hope we need to maneuver through this difficult time in life.

We can live our lives with tenacity. Holding fast to what we do have and the things we know is necessary to keep us grounded during a dizzying, confusing journey. Scripture assures us we can know God’s faithfulness. “Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful.” (Hebrews 10:23 NKJV)

We have purpose in this life. We may not know what that purpose is at this time. However, just realizing that God does have a reason for us being here can be hope enough to cling to Him and search for our purpose in living.

The decisions we make in the coming days are up to us. We can decide to live each day the best we know how. Those days will not be filled with perfection for none of us are perfect. However, they can be filled with good times, laughter and joy amidst the tears we still shed at times along the way.

When asked in the next few days what resolutions you are setting for this coming year, you can answer in the following way:

“I resolve to live with tenacity realizing I have a purpose in life. I will make the best decisions possible to honor my grief, my loved ones and my Lord.” Happy New Year my friends.

Until next time –