Marking time


Do you remember a time when you just couldn’t wait for something to happen? Perhaps it was saving up for and planning a vacation. Maybe you were excited for opening day and the first game of the season. Others enjoy the anticipation of a visit from special guests coming to town. Whatever is it you recall, when waiting for something special, we tend to find ourselves just marking time.

As we face a loss, it may seem that we are marking time, just waiting for the pain to pass and the days to brighten. Each morning we wake up and go through the motions with a heavy heart and a dulled mind. Time seemingly stands still as we dread each day that is now so different. We are simply marking time, willing the clock to go faster and to put the horrible experiences far behind us, hoping that we might forget the painful journey we are living.

I look back on the first four months after my husband passed away and truly cannot tell you many details of my days or nights. There are times that I regret not remembering more. Yet I realize that the lapse of memories during that time is probably a result of the shock I had experienced.

As the confusion and dullness gave way to clarity, I realized a decision had to be made. Did I really want to live my days just marking time? In doing so I would fail to contribute to the world. I believe we are all here for a reason – a purpose. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

Marking time will not allow us to accomplish the purpose for which we are created. Certainly I believe there is a time to be still and grief our loss. Every one who has experienced grief needs time to process and be comforted by others. Eventually though, there comes a point when we should be willing to move forward and do our best to make a difference in the lives of others.

Where are you in your grief? Are you still in the marking time phase? Have you been there a while? Be encouraged to know that there will come a day when you can do more. Look for it and determine to continue moving forward on your journey.

Until next time –



Grief Letters By Karen Bransgrove, Published by WestBow Press. You can order here.

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