Listen to your guide


I have been out this past week, running a preteen camp for my church. One of our days was filled with white-water rafting on the Colorado River. Mad Adventures is the tour company I use for this exciting activity. They have a very knowledgeable staff that works hard to keep us safe. While on the water, we are reminded time and again to listen to your guide. Their wise words and actions enable us to arrive at our destination down river safely.

As you journey through grief and loss, you can find help and encouragement in listening to your guide as well. However, who do you know that can provide wisdom in the difficult days ahead? Has someone else’s journey through death and loss proved they know their stuff and are able to show you the way as well? What is their track record? Do they seem reliable?

These are all questions you might ask while watching others walk through loss. As you wonder how you will take your next step forward, you long for strength and guidance, looking around for a source to plug into. While God can surely place people in your path to help and cheer you on, you do need to carefully choose your guide.

Placing too much faith and trust in people will eventually bring disappointment. While others mean well, no one person can possibly meet all your needs. It is important to remember that while you both may have suffered a loss, no two losses are exactly the same. Situations and circumstances differ from person to person – loss to loss. That being the case, what can you do as you seek further help and healing on your own journey?

You can remember the hope and promise found in God’s Word. Even as you struggle to find your footing to stand upright and slowly make your way toward healing, take the time to embrace scripture. One particular passage has held great meaning for me.

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38, 39

Even when you feel that no one can understand and no one cares, you can be assured that God does. You may fear that you are alone on your journey, but His presence in your life is guaranteed when you know Him personally. Nothing can separate you from God. Not even death.

So during those times when you feel abandoned by your loved one, look up and remember this promise. When you feel you cannot possibly continue on, stop and listen to your guide, Jesus Christ. Healing rarely comes instantly – but it does come. Your joy will slowly return as you wake each morning and learn to discern the voice of your guide from all the other noises filling your world.

Until next time –


Let me encourage you to share Grief Letters with those you know walking through loss and sadness. This devotion book is filled with stories of my own journey as well as suggested activities written to help achieve forward progress through grief.


Grief Letters By Karen Bransgrove, Published by WestBow Press. You can order here.

Hardcover | 6 x 9 in | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869674

Softcover | 6 x 9 in | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869667

E-Book | 114 pages | ISBN 9781490869650

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